“Freedom is the will to be responsible for ourselves.”~Friedrich Nietzsche
I still remember my first business law seminar. The teacher walked in, gave a small introduction and proceeded to give us a lecture on life:
“You must not be a burden to your parents!” he said among other things. “Find a part time job and work your way through college.”
His opinion was that the students’ main priority should be studying. Their second priority should be work.
My peers disagreed.
“When will we have time for fun?” they asked.
“When you’re done studying and working!” he answered as if their question served no purpose.
As one lad pointed out, the classes’ opinion was:
“We should find a way to balance our studies with more relaxing activities” (which meant: “we should search for ways to study less and party more”).
The teacher went on to explain how he works 3 jobs, from 7 A.M. to 9 P.M., 5 days a week.
“You need to rent a table when going to the club at my age. You can’t sip your beer while standing up at 40 years old” he said in an attempt to relate to his audience.
After working from 7 A.M. to 9 P.M. (3 jobs, 5 days a week, for the past 20 years) all he could afford were a beer and a table on weekends. Nonetheless, the man did have a point.
Most people in their twenties think they’re living the “golden years”.
They believe they must party now, because, after 30, it’s all over. There will be family and work and no time for fun.
And they are right.
How will they have time for fun with 10 years of unsolved problems piled up?
How can anyone expect to have money after 10 years of pointless spending?
How can anyone expect to be healthy after 10 years of fast food and drinking?
It is not time which makes people stop enjoying life, but what they’ve done with their time.
“You will have enough free time, but that shouldn’t be your main priority” said my teacher of law. “Partying is easy. Making a life for yourself… not so much.”
I could tell he was speaking from experience.
I could also tell he was not getting through to them. They seemed to say: “this sounds like a lot of trouble.”
Speaking to the walls
The teacher and his students would not come to an agreement that day.
He spoke of taking responsibility for your own self. They didn’t know what that meant.
He tried to make them think of their future. They tried not to.
He spoke to adults. They acted like children.
For the past 20 years, their parents made all of their decisions.
They did not learn that not thinking for yourself has consequences.
They simply went with the flow, but did not question where the flow is taking them.
Where is the flow taking you?
Imagine yourself 10 years from now. If you keep on doing what you’re doing, who will you be?
Remember: It is not the things you do once a month which determine how your life will turn out, but the things you do each day.
Change your destiny
Did you like what you saw? Do you need to change a few things?
If so, grab a piece of paper and write those things down. Choose one item and act on it now.
Keep it simple!
I know it’s your life on the line, but do not complicate matters more than necessary.
On the piece of paper, write down whatever comes to mind. From it, choose whatever it is you can act upon right now.
Let’s say you wrote down: “My house is messy.”
The solution to this problem is not to organize a spring cleaning. It is not to call your family/friends and set up a “clean my house” day.
Grab a book and put it in the library. Take your scattered clothes to the washing machine. Put a chair back in its place.
“The smallest deed is better than the greatest intention.” ~John Burroughs
If you complicate your task too much, you won’t feel like doing it anymore.
So, before you have time to think yourself out of it, grab a piece of paper and start writing!